At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.

The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hands, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.

Have a nice day!

What Is The Bottom Line?


A Boat docked in a tiny Mexican fishing village. A tourist complimented the local fishermen on the quality of their fish and asked,"how long it took him to catch them?"
"Not very long" they answered in unison.
"Why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?"
The fishermen explained that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs and those of their families.
"But what do you do with the rest of your time?" 
"We sleep late, fish a little, play with our children, and take siestas with our wives.

In the evenings, we go into the village to see our friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs. "We have a full life"

The tourist interrupted!

have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you.!You should start by fishing longer every day You can then sell the extra fish you catch With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat And after that?"" With the extra money the larger boat will bring you can buy a second one and a third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of trawlers Instead of selling your fish to a middle man you can then negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant You can then leave this little village and move to Mexico City , Los Angeles , or even , New York City

From there you can direct your huge new enterprise "?How long would that take"

"Twenty, perhaps twenty-five years." replied the tourist.

" And after that?"

Afterwards? Well my friend, that's when it gets really interesting, " answered the tourist, laughing. "When your business gets really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and "make millions"
"Millions? Really? And after that?" asked the fishermen.

After that you'll be able to retire, live in a tiny village near the coast,sleep late, play with your children catch a few fish, take a siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends

"With all due respect sir, but that's exactly what we are doing now. So what's the point in wasting twenty-five years?" asked the Mexicans

And the moral of this story is

What is success?? As per Winston Churchill, "Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm."

Gene Fowler : What is success? It is a toy balloon among children armed with pins.


Albert Einstein : Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.


Abraham Lincoln : Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing.
Malcolm Forbes  : Failure is success if we learn from it.

Unknown: Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
Elim Chew : Stability and sound mind is key to success ! Thru experience and challenges ,Built up inner core strength !

For Me: We must have Dreams and Visions ! Think big and take a step at a time to do it ! See your dreams happen !

If IBM made toasters ... They would want one big toaster where people bring bread to be submitted for overnight toasting. IBM would claim a worldwide market for five, maybe six toasters.

If Xerox made toasters ... You could toast one-sided or double-sided.Successive slices would get lighter and lighter. The toaster would jam your bread for you.

If Radio Shack made toasters ... The staff would sell you a toaster, but not know anything about it. Or you could buy all the parts to build your own toaster.

If Oracle made toasters ... They'd claim their toaster was compatible with all brands and styles of bread, but when you got it home you'd discover the Bagel Engine was still in development, the Croissant Extension was three years away, and that indeed the whole appliance was just blowing smoke.

If Sun made toasters ... The toast would burn often, but you could get a really good cuppa Java.

Does DEC still make toasters?... They made good toasters in the '80s, didn't they?

If Hewlett-Packard made toasters ... They would market the Reverse Toaster,which takes in toast and gives you regular bread.

If Tandem made toasters ... You could make toast 24 hours a day, and if a piece got burned the toaster would automatically toast you a new one.

If Thinking Machines made toasters ... You would be able to toast 64,000 pieces of bread at the same time.

If Cray made toasters ... They would cost $16 million but would be faster than any other single-slice toaster in the world.

If the NSA made toasters ... Your toaster would have a secret trap door that only the NSA could access in case they needed to get at your toast for reasons of national security.

If Sony made toasters ... The ToastMan, which would be barely larger than the single piece of bread it is meant to toast, can be conveniently attached to your belt.

If Timex made toasters ... They would be cheap and small quartz-crystal wrist toasters that take a licking and keep on toasting.

If Fisher Price made toasters ... "Baby's First Toaster" would have a hand-crank that you turn to toast the bread that pops up like a Jack-in-the-box.

If Microsoft made toasters ... Every time you bought a loaf of bread, you would have to buy a toaster. You wouldn't have to take the toaster, but you'd still have to pay for it anyway. Toaster'95 would weigh 15000 pounds (hence requiring a reinforced steel countertop), draw enough electricity to power a small city, take up 95% of the space in your kitchen,would claim to be the first toaster that lets you control how light or dark
you want your toast to be, and would secretly interrogate your other appliances to find out who made them. Everyone would hate Microsoft toasters, but nonetheless would buy them since most of the good bread only
works with their toasters.

If Apple made toasters ... It would do everything the Microsoft toaster does, but 5 years earlier.

If SAP made toasters, the manual to run the toaster would be approximately 10,000 pages long. The toaster would come with 2,500 switches which would all have to be set in an exact pattern and in a precise sequence in order to toast specific kinds of bread. Each pattern would be established by SAP's experts as the "Best Practices" method of toasting that kind of bread. It would take a team of basis and functional contractors about 1 year to configure the toaster in the best manner, and then another 6 months to test it. In the mean time, your entire family would need to attend extensive training classes on how to use the new toaster. In order to support end users and consultants, MIT would establish a list-serv for people to post questions and answers regarding toaster set-up and operation. Of course, the online help would randomly pop up in German. But once it was running, you'd get the best toast in the world.

• The key to anger reduction is knowing yourself.
• Do important jobs now before they become urgent.
• When you make mistakes, learn from them rather than getting angry.
• Most problems are really the absence of ideas. Think ahead... anticipate... do it or get it done, even if second best... you will be less angry.
• Organize your mind and organize your desk for six minutes every hour.
• Say sorry at the right moment to reduce the anger of others. For every 10 minutes you are angry you lose 600 seconds of happiness.
• A short pencil is better than a long memory. Use it to reduce your anger.
• Nobody can make you angry without your consent.
• Never get angry with a man who has nothing to lose.
• The most common occupational disease of a poor executive is his inability to listen. The result is anger.
• Never reply to a letter when you are angry.
• Make common sense your best friend to reduce your anger and the anger of others.
• Indecision makes you angry. Therefore, decide this way or that way.
• You cannot change others as easily as you can change yourself.
• When you want to get things done, use creative ways to remind people as they tend to forget conveniently; this will reduce your anger.
• Most people remember 20 % of what they hear... understand this fact to reduce your anger
• Learn to say no… with SMILE 
• Aristotle’s Challenge
• Anyone can become angry -- that is easy.
• But to be angry
• with the right person,
• to the right degree,
• at the right time,
• for the right purpose, and
• in the right way --
• this is not easy.
• A strong man is not one who can fight but one who can control his temper when angry.
• Anyone can be polite to a King, it takes a gentleman/Lady to be polite to a beggar.  

اپنے دیس کو روتے بھی ہو، چین سے پڑ کر سوتے بھی ہو

اپنے دیس کا غم کیسا ہے، ہنستے بھی ہو روتے بھی ہو

کس نے کہا تھا آو یہاں، آ کر تم بس جاؤ یہاں

جب دیس تمہارا اپنا تھا، وہ شہر تمہارا اپنا تھا

... وہ گلی تمہاری اپنی تھی، وہ مکاں پرانا اپنا تھا

اس دیس کو پھر کیوں چوڑا تھا، کیوں اپنوں سے منہ موڑا تھا

سب رشتوں کو کیوں توڑا تھا، ارے جو بھی تھا کیا تھوڑا تھا
 
 
جب بھی دیسی مل کے بھٹیں پھر قصّے چھڑ جاتے ہیں


ان ٹوٹی سڑکوں کے قصّے، ان گندی گلیوں کے قصّے

ان گلیوں میں پھرنے والے ان سارے بچوں کے قصّے

اورنگی یا کورنگی کے پانی کے نلکوں کے قصّے

ان نلکوں پہ ہونے والے ان سارے جھگڑوں کے قصّے

...اور نکّر والے دروازے پہ ٹاٹ کے اس پردے کے قصّے

اس پردے کے پیچھے بیٹھی اس البیلی نار کے قصّے

جسکی ایک نظر کو ترسے ان سارے لڑکوں کے قصّے

جھوٹے قصّے سچے قصّے ، پیار بھرے اس دیس کے قصّے

پیار بھرے اس دیس کو تم نے آخر کیونکر چھوڑا تھا

کیوں اپنوں سے منہ موڑا تھا

سب رشتوں کو کیوں توڑا تھا، ارے جو بھی تھا کیا تھوڑا تھا

تم پھولے نہیں سماے تھے، جب embassy سے آے تھے


ہر ایک کو ویزا دکھاتے تھے اور ساتھ یہ کہتے جاتے تھے

چند ہی دنوں کی بات ہے یاروں جب میں واپس آؤنگا

ساتھ میں اپنے ڈھیر سے ڈالر اور patta بھی لاؤں گا

تم نے کب یہ سوچا ہوگا ، کیا کیا کچھ پردیس میں ہوگا...

اپنے دیس کے ہوتے سوتے، بے وطنی کو روتے روتے

دیس کو تم پر دیس کہو گے اور پردیس کو دیس کہو گے

دیس کو تم الزام بھی دو گے، الٹے سیدھے نام بھی دو گے

ارے دیس کو تم الزام نہ دو، الٹے سیدھے نام نہ دو

دیس نے تم کو چھوڑا تھا، یا تم نے دیس کو چھوڑا تھا

کیوں اپنوں سے منہ موڑا تھا

سب رشتوں کو کیوں توڑا تھا، ارے جو بھی تھا کیا تھوڑا تھا